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Originally Posted by brianna
I have not attacked you and the fact that you have choosen to attack me for bringing up my concerns about stereotyping women saddens me. I made it a point to say that i did not think you or anyone else was being intentionaly sexist and up until you chose to make your post about me instead of about the ideas i presented i thought you wanted to have a discussion about the topic at hand.
I made a number of comments about the nature of this thread and you came back with comments that did EXACTLY what i was warning against -- you discounted my feelings and opinions instead of responding to what i had to say. This sort of defensive angry response will do nothing to raise the level of dialog on this board much less improve relations between the sexes as a whole.
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I responded directly to what you said. I didn't take offence until you said:
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Each person is an individual and trying to understand a person based on some preconceived "schedule" is ignorant at best and demeaning at worst.
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You indirectly attacked me and many other people who posted on here. You were claiming that I was ignorant. Am I supposed to see that as anything other than an attack? I assumed that because you were coming in with an attack, that you were ready for a direct debate. As someone who spends a great deal of time in Politics, this is my standard practice in such a situation. I'm sorry if you weren't expecting a direct response. In my first response I simply addressed your post. There were no intended attacks at all in the first response. I answered that emotion has to go with biology in dealing with the menstrual cycle. I gave you a few hypothtical examples to illustrate my point. Then I addressed your attack. I told you I was a bit offfended. I explained why, and I illustrated my point again with a real life example.
Then you responded with some stereotypes of your own. You assumed that we buy into the "men are rational, women are emotional wrecks" belief (which is sexist, of course), despite the fact there there was no evidence of such a belief system. Then you said you'd be upset if your SO knew you were in the midst of the less desirable part of the cycle and brought you ice cream because of it. You'd really be mad at someone for bringing you ice cream? I'd be happy if someone brought me ice cream because they thought I was meentally diabled. I mean it's ice cream! (darn, now I'm hungry) In case you were wondering, that was a poor atenpt at humor in a desperate attempt to lighten the mood.
Anyways, this post is here to help men to be better husbands and boyfriends (and fathers and brothers). This is intended primatrily to be benificial to the women who have to endure the cycle in order to have children. The way I see it, trying to help women through the cycle is the least we can do. Like it or not, the normal cycle is about a month, and cramps can come when it's time. Hormones do change with the differing parts of the cycle, and those hormones can effect mood. This post isn't about women being controled by hormones. It's not a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde situation of course. It's the same woman with the same mind, body, and soul. This thread does not imply that women will become emotional wrecks. All this does it create a basic foundation for understanding of the biology of the menstrual cycle and some of the effects that the biology MIGHT have on mood. Do you want your SO to understand why you might not feel well? Do you want your SO to bring you flowers because you might be in discomfort? Somehow that seems more thoughtful than sexist.