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Originally Posted by brianna
i find this sort of thing fairly dangerous because it seems to discount a woman's feelings. while hormones affect everyone's mood a woman's personality and emotions cannot be distilled down to "oh, it's day 5, that explains everything." i find that too many people discount women's healthy natural normal emotions based on what they perceive her menstrual cycle to be. (conversely i have known women to expect forgiveness for ridiculously inappropriate behavior because, "it's that time of the month").
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I feel obligated to respond to this as the tread starter. You cannot discount feelings the same way you cannot discount mood as it is effected by hormones. You cannot have one without the other. It is assumed in the original post that you have an understanding of emotional response.
When I get home from work, and I have forgotten our anniversary, I expect my wife to be angry, disapointed, and hurt because I didn't think of her (though I would never in a million years do that ebcause I love my wife more than anything). That is an emotional response.
When I get home from work and my wife is watching Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood and eating mint chocolate chip ice cream, wearing her swaet pants, I can gather that it is possible that she is having cramps and is more proned to a mood swing of some kind. The idea of this thread is to understnad why this is happening, and what you should do to make her more comfortable. I think that in understanding this one of many parts of your partner, you're better able to appreciate and love your partner. When I bring home my wifes favorite ice cream on that certian day, she is not hurt because I think she's a mood robot, she is happy because I love her enough to anticipate and help her when she needs help.
That's what she said when I just asked her a few minutes ago, btw. I'm not just guessing.
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Originally Posted by brianna
Each person is an individual and trying to understand a person based on some preconceived "schedule" is ignorant at best and demeaning at worst.
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I think I'm justified in being a bit offended by that remark. You're conclusion assumes that I am doing this for selfish reasons. You think that I am doing this to figure out women so we can use them and that we discount their feelings in just "dealing with them". What you miss out on is that mood swings and emotions are fundamentally intertwined. If you havge a mood swing, with it comes many emotions that are important and relevant. What I'm trying to do is clue some guys in on what they don't know so that they can be better men to their women (when I say "their women" I am not suggesting ownership, only association).
If hypothetically, your bf/husband/what have you comes home and you're feeling sad and you're craving sugar (which can happen for some women), he should know how to adress what is happening to you in order to make you comfortable. We, as men, do not have one clue what it's really like to have a menstrual cycles. We cannot really sympathise or empathise with you in this. All we can do is our best to make you happy. That's what this is about.
If you're wondering about comments like "She's ready to iron and fold", "She's really horney", or "She's a lesbian", it's a matter of writing to your readers. This post was intended for men (the name of the thread is "Men, you need to read (and memorize) this", lest we forget). I know that a lot of guys apprecaite humor of this type. It's also a great way to make a less than comfortable subject paletable. If that offended you, then realize that it's meant to appeal to your sense of humor, not your serious emotional side (which men and women both have).