rogue49

I was just saying to a lady friend of mine today,
that I suspect that there are more "male" virgins today, than "female" virgins.
She started to protest, and then she sighed and said that I was probably right
and ironically said that "Yep, there are a lot of sluts out there."

Well, that's when I protested…How a woman who is sexual, a "slut"?
This was the point I was getting at.
It really doesn't matter, if a FEMALE is more sexually experienced than a man.
Society has affected the viewpoints of both women & men,
making them think...men sleeping around is not so bad, and women sleeping around is very bad.
This shouldn't be true.
I've had ladies who have slept with me fairly fast, protesting that they don't do this ever…it's just not something they do...

Well, I don't care. I don't care if they've slept around all over the place, it's frankly none of my business,
Just like it's not theirs, how many women I've slept with.
I would PREFER that a woman have experience and feel comfortable with her desires and sexuality.
The men who feel differently are being selfish; they only want someone for themselves, "only them" EVER.
Well, isn't that just a little ego-centric.

And many women have also fed into this idea, that only a "proper" woman doesn't sleep around...Who gives a shit?
They are adult, it's their body and as long as they are responsible then it should be cool.

The reason I made the statement to my friend is...society has set up a pattern,
where for the most part the man has to be the aggressor.
(how many times have you heard women say they just couldn't call a man, they just wouldn't feel comfortable).
Well, unfortunately, this leaves us having to be the initiator and waiting on the approval of the female.
Now when we are young, most males don't have a lot to offer, other than their wit & charm, and even then it’s not refined.
The "nice guy" doesn't know how to approach girls, only "bad boys" do,
and girls are looking to rebel a bit anyway, (Why? Because the “bad boy” is cool, they are a challenge, they are strong)
so the "bad boy" gets what he wants, and then he doesn't care, and then he's on to another. (Why? because he can.)

Females are the one approached, and then let when they “feel” ready, they allow it (or are forced, but that’s a whole other issue). Males, at least the good ones, have to wait until they figure out how to approach women, how to seduce a woman or at least convince her into intimacy, until they are allowed to have initmacy.

This pattern sets up a situation where there are many more female that are not virgins, and more males are.
At least in the early years of adulthood.
It all pretty much evens out after awhile as girls start getting their heads on straight,
and boys start gaining confidence and some background, something to offer.

Of course, this is all reverse in “viewpoints”, males just can NOT be virgins…this slights their manhood…
females HAVE TO be the virgins last…this enhances their feminity.
And the ones who will admit the truth, well that’s the exception more than the rule.
From what I’ve seen and heard of the ACTUAL truth…mostly females lose their virginity BEFORE males.

Now...is this right or wrong? No, neither...it's a statement of truth.
This is how society works, not illusions of "properness" or "adequacy", but the actual dynamics.

I'm hoping for a future, where women take some initiative, and are not scared of their sexuality.
And where men are not put off by "experienced" women, and are not selfish enough to think they are the "only" man.
Are where both men & women are not looking down their noses at people who've have had some fun in the past.

All it is...is sex. period.
No one is wrong, no one is right, it's just all fun.
Who cares who is more “perverted” or “experienced”?
And if they are, then dammit, LEARN something from them.

Now, if we can just really work on people saying what they mean.
And understand the consequences of their words.
We could all have a much better time here on Earth.

/end of rant