I think certain details are better left untold. But I'd want to know if my SO had an affair and then broke it off...and only told me later. I'd still want to know. Otherwise I'd be living a lie. Honesty is important, but some things should remain in the past, the nitty gritty of it isn't important unless it affects you directly. If my SO had been arrested, I'd definitely want to know what it was for though...imagine he had murdered someone 
that would definitely make me think things through veeery carefully...
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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