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Originally Posted by ratbastid
What I find strange is that you're talking about this NOW. I can't imagine being in a committed relationship with someone--let alone MARRIED to them--without having aired all this dirty laundry already.
Whatever comes up, your only job is to roll with it. It's water under the bridge, she's yours now. Hear and don't judge.
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Sorry ratbastid but I have to disagree, I know you love your SO very much, but I can completely understand falling in love so hard for someone that something like their past just doesn't matter, and in fact never enters your brain. PET scans have shown that people that are deeply in love have changed brain activity, and the old adage about love being blind is often true. So I don't find it at all unusual that a couple could be together for some time before the issue comes up, and in this case it came up for entirely the RIGHT reason, one partner wants to use positive aspects of the others history as a guide to pleasing them now.