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Originally Posted by victorjara
Update: Paternity test shows guy not the dad  . Family thrown into chaos once again. Daughter hates me again for pushing for test. Young man was contributing (ever so slightly) to child and bonded a bit. Child 1.3 years old. I feel it was important to know the truth, get child support if it was his, and not pin this on the guy if it was not his.
I still kept my promise not to interfere. The paternity test was court ordered from previous, although I did want it, did pay for it, and did coordinate the taking of samples.
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I worked in the Louisiana state child support enforcement office for the last five years. I've seen more than my share of women who've named one man as the father, and fight and fight to get money from him. Several years later, the man decides to get his shit straight and asks for a blood test, and lo and behold the kids aren't his. There's no way to get the money back that he's spent, his credit is still fucked up and the kids are once again without a father. This doesn't serve
anyone worth a damn.
I went back and read the original post... I personally don't think you did a damn thing wrong, and a lot of things right. I know right now that your family is all in chaos again. Remind your daughter that you and she have already settled your own differences, the test is in the past, and what's done is done, and that you have every intention of sticking with your word. I would tell her that if she wants to name another boy the father, that you will support what she wants....
As far as I'm concerned, the statutory rape charge against the first boy didn't have anything to do with the baby: he pled guilty, which means he had sex with her. That doesn't automatically mean he fathered the child. I'd also look into your state's child support enforcement office.... Usually offered through Social Services, it offers women the opportunity for a mediary to collect their support, usually there is free legal help, and paternity tests (well, the father is responsible for the paternity test costs if he tests positive as the father). Sometimes there is a fee, but I know that in Louisiana, the fee is waived for mothers on welfare or any state assistance.
Good luck. This is a sticky situation....