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Originally Posted by skier
I personally view being "pussy whipped" as when the woman holds all the power in a relationship. I disagree with our current societies' viewpoint that men should supplicate to women in order to gain a relationship, or even just sex. I just don't see it as a healthy way to start off what could be a deep and meaningful relationship that can last years.
I would say you're pussy whipped if you answer "yes" to these questions:
1. has your girl controlled the escalation of your relationship? (if you can't answer this Question, just move on to the next.)
2. Has she ever threatened, or actually witheld emotional reward (love/sex) as a result of "bad" behavior on your part?
3. Have you ever given her a gift with an ulterior motive?
4. Do you let her get away with berating you, even in a joking manner, in front of peers?
5. Does she often ask you to do things for her? Do you do them? If you don't, does she act upset with you?
6. When you flirt with other girls, do you feel like you're getting away with something (guilty)?
7. Do you ever feel dependant on being with your girlfriend to be happy? That is, if you broke up with her right now, would you lead an unfufilled, unsatisfying life?
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I think this is a fine measure of whether or not someone is "whipped."
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Originally Posted by Coppertop
I have 2 friends that I used to game with regularly. My non-roommate friend gets a girlfriend and now we never see him again. My roommate friend was complaining to me the other day about how we never saw him anymore. So I asked him: "Who would you rather hang out with? Natalia or us?" Seeing as how Natalia is a beautiful woman absolutely infatuated with my friend, the answer is obvious.
Have sex or hang out with some dudes? That's not even a choice in my opinion.
Yes, he'll be back if/when they break up, just as he always has. But friends'll be there for him when he does. If they're not, I daresay they weren't true friends to begin with.
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For the record, our third friend is not pussy-whipped. Especially if you look at skier's criteria and apply it to their relationship. They have a healthy relationship and their continuous time spent is the result of being very much in love with each other. Granted, I'm bummed because he doesn't spend time with us, but we'll still be there for him, no matter what. If I were in that situation, I'd still make time for my guy friends, but that's because that's the person I am.
Any notions of him being pussy-whipped come only from the gentle ribbing that we give him as his friends. Every one of us in our group of friends took a bit of ribbing from everyone else when they started dating someone seriously. Some handled it well, others not so well.
I do believe that some people are pussy-whipped, but I think the term itself is macho-elitist and poorly chosen.