Its been a loooooooooooooong time since I was in a position where I was the lesser experienced partner, and I've never had a problem with inhibitions, lol..... But I dated a girl once a while back who had some issues opening up and letting her inhibitions go. The fantasies discussion helped a LOT.... As did a discussion about what she didn't "like" to do but "would" do if I really wanted her to.
She was pretty good about intimacy.... a kiss or a caress or whatever. But as far as initiating sex and telling me what she wanted, as soon as things got even remotely sexual, she'd clam up and it was frustrating to try to figure out exactly what she wanted. Once the passion kicked in, it was pretty easy to follow through, but sometimes it just seemed like nothing I did was "just" right. So we had a box, with all those things she said she wanted to try written down on slips of paper. All she had to do was pull a slip out and tell me that's what she wanted.... That way we had some variety, and she learned to articulate what she wanted me to do. Sometimes, she'd give me the paper and I'd get to make her do what was on the slip. It pretty much depended on what was written... there were some things she really just wanted me to "make" her do.
I like those spinner sex games, too. *grins* Those can be seriously fun.
It sounds like you've gotten some great ideas here, good luck!
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