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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
I also love how spanking seems to be the same as beating.....they are two completely different things.
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No they're not. What's traditionally defined as beating is simply a more extreme beating than spanking. The only difference between the two is that spanking is marginally socially acceptable - - -although that's slowly changing, and the days of spanking are numbered. After all, 30 years ago it was routine for teachers to spank/paddle children, and that hardly ever happens any more due to social pressures.
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IN MY OPINION people who chose to reason with a child, and Im talking ages 2-5, are parents who love the sound of their own voice so much they love nothing more than repeating the same things over and over when trying to convince your toddler not to do something, and they think that we (as in the public) love their voice so much that we just have NO problem hearing it when shopping somewhere or eating somewhere.
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First off, you're assuming that those of us who are opposed to spanking advocate annoying the public with our children. The responsible ones among us most certainly do not. If my child misbehaves in public and a quick "stop it" doesn't work, the child is removed from the public and is disciplined, without spanking, away from the public eye. I firmly believe that I, as with any parent, do not have the right to inflict my children on others. If that means paying and leaving a restaurant after one bite of food because the kid is being obnoxious and irritating other customers, so be it. I most certainly have never sat in an aisle explaining over and over to the kid what he is doing wrong.
I've never been an advocate of constant explanations. My child is smart. I've had his IQ tested and he tests quite well thank you. He can understand when I say "kid, that's not what you should be doing." I don't need to give him a 30 minute lecture on it.
When I say I raise my kid to respect others, I don't mean that I yammer at him constantly. He sees me respecting others. He sees my wife respecting others. If he has questions, he gets them answered. If he needs something explained, he certainly gets it, but it does not turn into a lecture, and it certainly doesn't take place in public.
Frankly, however, I'd much rather see a parent in a store explaining to his kid why what the kid is doing is wrong than to see the parent whipping up on his kid for misbehaving.