guys.....seriously Im NOT trying to talk him INTO that kind of thing.....like I have said a few times dominance without consequences of SOME kind isnt being dominant. Byesman you asked for a suggestion....lots of times what Dave will do to me (or me to him since we switch) is the person "misbehaving" isnt allowed to get off.....they must continue to perform for the other person...ie oral but all stimulation of the misbehaving person stops.
I think I just need to leave this one alone now since I cant seem to communicate that I wasnt necessarily talking about whips and chains etc, evidently Im not making that as clear as I thought I was.
I will let the non bdsm people help him with it so as not to confuse anyone anymore
