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irateplatypus · 02-06-2005, 11:26 AM

what bothers me most out of this situation is how controlling and secretive she appears to be. by refusing to talk about it and trying to keep you from discussing it with your friends, she is trying to dictate the terms of your relationship. she KNOWS she is being a crappy girlfriend. but instead of changing herself, she is manipulating the situation so you have as little external advice as possible. what she would like least is for you to fully realize the imbalance. she is, in effect, using you and dictating the relationship in order to keep it that way. it isn't really that she is immature, she is just on a powertrip and is exploiting your affection for self-satisfaction.

my advice: ditch her. don't call her later, don't hang out as friends. you'll probably be thinking about her a lot, it's in both of your interests not to let her know you even care anymore. it will feel strange and painful because you're used to getting crumbs from her table. she will whine, bitch, and perhaps do something drastic to force you back into her terms. don't fall for it. until it's an equal relationship, neither of you will be happy. she may never grow out of it... move on.

02-06-2005, 11:26 AM	#35 (permalink)
irateplatypus can't help but laugh Location: dar al-harb	what bothers me most out of this situation is how controlling and secretive she appears to be. by refusing to talk about it and trying to keep you from discussing it with your friends, she is trying to dictate the terms of your relationship. she KNOWS she is being a crappy girlfriend. but instead of changing herself, she is manipulating the situation so you have as little external advice as possible. what she would like least is for you to fully realize the imbalance. she is, in effect, using you and dictating the relationship in order to keep it that way. it isn't really that she is immature, she is just on a powertrip and is exploiting your affection for self-satisfaction. my advice: ditch her. don't call her later, don't hang out as friends. you'll probably be thinking about her a lot, it's in both of your interests not to let her know you even care anymore. it will feel strange and painful because you're used to getting crumbs from her table. she will whine, bitch, and perhaps do something drastic to force you back into her terms. don't fall for it. until it's an equal relationship, neither of you will be happy. she may never grow out of it... move on. __________________ If you will not fight when your victory will be sure and not too costly, you may come to the moment when you will have to fight with all the odds against you and only a precarious chance for survival. There may even be a worse case. You may have to fight when there is no hope of victory, because it is better to perish than to live as slaves. ~ Winston Churchill Last edited by irateplatypus; 02-06-2005 at 11:29 AM..