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TFP'ers - Although the majority of you say 'It's not your problem, don't deal with it.' I don't think that is the answer la petite moi is looking for. Obviously she cares alot about her sister to show great concern for what mishaps she may be brining upon herself. It may not be her problem, but I get the feeling la petite moi isn't treating it as her problem as much as she is just being a caring sister and trying to support someone of her own blood.
I take it like this:
la petite moi - I think what you have to do is just talk with your sister. I don't HOW close the two of you are, but I think that a correctly done talk could possibly help alot more than anything else. The catch with this is you have to be REALLY good at guiding her, because there is only so much you can do. Your sister has to realize what she is doing, what she isn't doing, and what she could do to fix it, or to maintain anything good that she already is doing. You are the words that are there to help her find what she's looking for.
So I'd get her at a time when shes not busy, and ask if you can talk with her a little bit about school. School seems to be your first priority for her. Tell her you understand that her grades aren't doing so well. Relate to her, because for me at least, I KNOW high school was a bore, and I didn't WANT to do anything like homework, because it's absolutely pointless in High School. That's mixing the negative with the positive, so hopefully you don't lose her and she starts swearing at you, like you said. If she's interested in fashion, a public high school isn't going to do too much as far as getting her any education in that field, but she needs to know that as soon as she passes High School, she can take as much time as she needs to go through college. All she has to do is get through H.S. first. Music is fairly similar, most high school music programs won't give much satisfaction to better musicians. But the idea is still the same, as long as she can get through High School, she can shape her own education to how she needs it to be.
When you talk with her make sure not to be condescending, or frustrated, or dissapointed in her. She won't listen that way. She needs to be talked with on her level, mixing what SHE is interested in, with what she needs to have put in her agenda. A big core idea is that no matter what she wants to do in the future, she has to work at it. 'We are what we repeatedly do; excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.' I live by that quote, it's a good lesson for anything that you do in life. She needs to realize that she can still hang out with her friends and spend money etc, but she needs to balance it with her work: school, job, music, fashion, whatever. All work and no play certainly does make a dull day, but all play and no work will leave you poor and struggling to live past your twenties.
She may be living with her frame of mind only set on the present, just doing whatever she feels, which isn't a bad thing. She just needs to see that she can't have tunnel vision and look over the future or the past as well.
I hope this helps for your situation, let me know how it works out if you decide to use any of it!
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We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.
---Aristotle
Deeds, not words, shall speak [for] me.
---John Fletcher
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