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I'll respond to this as briefly as possible as to not send this thread even further down an unintended tangent.
But my experiences with people who have been in those relationships are real and my opinions are not based on "imaginary" things. You are saying they can't be compared based upon your experiences and that's fine but based on my experiences and based upon my values they are on the same level of vileness. You wouldn't think to kindly if I came on here and say "Yeah I was abusive at one point in my life and I might be abusive in the future, and I've been cheated on and the cheaters are worse. They can't even be compared."
At the end of the day death is death and violated trust is violated trust. I know people who were abused who were then later cheated upon and that haunted them longer than any abuser. When they talked about their regrets in life they didn't talk about the abuse. They talked about the cheating. Not saying this is going to be the case for everybody as different people will have different reactions and different opinions, but just because you yourself cheated in the past and were in turn abused has no bearing on others opinions and views on who they think are dastardly human beings. As there are some people who abuse and are abused who do not think abuse is that "big of a deal".
Feel free to start another thread or PM if you want to continue discussing the matter but I just ask that if you do that you try to reign in that undertone of insulting and confrontationalism in your posts. It's coming across as kind of hostile for little reason.
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