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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
ie....whats the point in being dominant if she decides she doesnt like something? If there are no consequences its ill fated from the start
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I agree with this wholeheartedly. Unfortunately ShaniFaye, I've found that's how most of the people out there who are not in the lifestyle view D/s... *sighs* In the 15 years I've been active and public in BDSM, I've seen lots and lots of misunderstanding about the differences in the roles and natures of the lifestyle.
To byesman:
As far as I'm concerned, this is just play. I don't mean this as a dig at your wife, but maybe she's just afraid to take risks.... On the other hand, if she gets really turned on and excited when you take a dominant role, then maybe the two of you should supplement your exploration with some research into BDSM.... its <i><b>not</b></i> about whips and chains and leather and what you see on television and in the movies. (Unless, of course, you want it to be.
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If you're interested, PM me and I can give you some resources. There may even be a local gateway group in your area.