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Old 02-03-2005, 05:26 PM   #120 (permalink)
skidknee
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Originally Posted by gentlesoul43
Here's another perspective: I asked some asian ladies friend of mine why some women prefer western men. They said that western men knows how to treat a woman right and treats them as equals. Asian men, on the other hand, can turn out to be chauvinistic and old fashioned. Truth is, asian men can still have the superior gender mindset and asian familiies, while perceived as family oriented, can tend to be reclusive, controlling and biased against the women. A lot of modern women prefer the freedom that the foreign men can give them. Most of these women are well educated and are exposed to the modern world, Which also explains why most women who prefer western men can speak english well.

Western women, on the other hand, will find difficulty adapting to the controlling asian culture. The mate may be open-minded but the family isn't. Ask your western women friends who have asian mates how they're getting along with the families, especially if they are migrants to the country.
Good points, although I do not find them completely accurate, but that is merely my opinion. The part about Asian males being old-fashioned and chauvinistic is partially true, but that's because in any culture there will be chauvinistic males. I feel as though that is still portrayed in media today as an unfair display of the typically "assumed" cultural dichotomy of the Asian male and the Asian female.

I am surprised it isn't mentioned how western males can be EQUALLY chauvinistic (or whatever negative connotation you want to use).

I admit I only skimmed through the posts, but I didn't recollect anyone mentioning the overwhelming idea of Westernization and assimilation of the Western culture? Especially for the first generations, there is an apparent change from their immigrant parents ideology. While immigrant parents may remain relatively conservative, they don't experience the assimilation to western culture as fast as the younger generation, and from the look of it, westernization of Asians through media and popular culture leaves Asian males out of the picture--for the most part.

I'm not saying that's the entire reason, but there is some truth to that. The underlying message of westernization and further assimilation of American culture is very prevalent within the Asian-American youth.

And if this helps anyone, I am Chinese, and had previously dated a Caucasian female. There was an interesting dichotomy between her family life and mine, but that was not because of some repressive patriarchal family structure, but because of the attention that was put on family life and the appreciation of family life. I treated her like a gentleman and as a equal. She did end up cheating on me, but that has no relevance to the color of her skin or American culture. Take that with a grain of salt.

Sorry for the long post.
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