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Welcome to the club. What club? The Responsible Sibling Saddled with Guilt and Responsibility for the Irresponsible (yet, somehow favored by the parents) Sibling Club. Membership is free, since you are already paying your dues every goddamn day you have to deal with your family's bullshit.
Both my wife and I were members of this club, and lemme tell you, there is nothing you can do but save yourself. Do whatever you need to do for your own sanity first. Once you have done that, if you have enough physical and emotional energy left take care of your sister.
You can not save someone who does not want to be saved. Let her fail. The longer she is propped up, the longer it will take her to assume responsibility for herself. Once she falls low enough, she may get her shit together.
She may not. She may be like this her entire life, leeching off whomever is kind enough to allow themselves to be taken advantage of.
Be there for her emotionally, but don't act like a bank, motel, booking agent, or employer.
Don't ever, ever, ever, never, ever, no matter what listen to this one little gem, "She's having a hard time because you are so successful and she isn't." Next time somebody says that, you have my expressed written permission to punch them in the mouth.
You are responsible for you, and you are doing a damn fine job.
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Ass, gas or grass. Nobody rides for free.
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