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Unless the guy or girl is a total zero, "cheating" doesn't happen in a vacuum. Putting aside the issue of what constitues cheating (kissing? 2nd base? third base? no cumming?), it isn't as simple as the "cheater" is a total shitheel. What if your SO is not meeting your essential needs, although this has been communicated clearly over and over, and in your mind there is no acceptable reason for that? What if your SO needs you and you don't want to abandon him or her? How do you reconcile those contradictory positions? Admittedly, cheating lots of times is nothing more than instant gratification over something bigger and more important, but often it isn't so simple. I knew a guy whose wife had very advanced MS, and he took greeat care of her, but also discreetly saw someone else (ironically, he died of a heart attack and she still lives). In his situation, I have a hard time condemning him for his actions...let those without sin judge I guess.
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