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ProdigyWill · 02-01-2005, 12:02 PM

Well I have been surfing this forum for a few months now and have gained a lot of respect for it. While I don't post often, I have been having some insecurities about my rather serious relationship, and I wanted some outside opinions. I have talked to my SO about all these things but it just didn't help that much. I just need to vent somewhat to someone else. So here goes, any comments or advice or new perspectives would be much apprectiated.

The first bit is fairly simple. My SO is five years older than me and fairly experienced (like 6 or so other partners). She, however, told me that I'm the first guy that has actually made her cum. I find this really hard to believe, since I'm 18 and had ABSOLUTELY no experience before her. As in, I had never even kissed another girl. I'd like to believe that I'm just that good, but just doesn't seem to fit. She has been nothing but honest with me so I want to believe her it just really doesn't seem to fit in my mind.
So my question is just mainly just for the women: Is it realistic that this could be true?

The rest of my problem comes just in dealing with experience in general. For this I should probably explain the relationship a bit more. We've actually only been together for about 4 months but we've told each other that we love one another (which we really do) and despite my living in the dorms on an all male floor, she lives with me....stays over everynight, come here after work, we've actually both slipped up and referred to my room (a single, luckily) as home. My problem is that she has a been around and been with other people and such. I haven't. Not just in sexual experience either. She has experience in about everything. This is where the subject comes in. I have very liberal views of just about everything, and when I look through these "liberal glasses" none of this experience bothers me. However, I had a very conservative upbringing, and as a result I feel like certain values seem burned into me. And these values often sharply disagree with me being able to be with this girl. I don't know how to deal with these vastly different perspectives other than hope than give it time. I also think that the fact that I wasn't given any time to experience any of this for myself might play into it. It can sometimes feel like I found the right girl to soon. But at the same time, I NEVER even consider breaking up with her for this because I know I would always regret it, and I just can't really picture me getting along with anyone better than how we get along. I mean, in my entire life, I have never felt this comfortable around anybody and as a naturally shy guy, I have no problems talking to her. Well I'm sure this is just something that I'll have to work through, just the same I need to let talk about this to someone other than my SO and I was hoping for some outside input or comments, maybe even some new way to look at it that I haven't yet.

02-01-2005, 12:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
ProdigyWill Upright Location: Montana	Perspective Insecurities Well I have been surfing this forum for a few months now and have gained a lot of respect for it. While I don't post often, I have been having some insecurities about my rather serious relationship, and I wanted some outside opinions. I have talked to my SO about all these things but it just didn't help that much. I just need to vent somewhat to someone else. So here goes, any comments or advice or new perspectives would be much apprectiated. The first bit is fairly simple. My SO is five years older than me and fairly experienced (like 6 or so other partners). She, however, told me that I'm the first guy that has actually made her cum. I find this really hard to believe, since I'm 18 and had ABSOLUTELY no experience before her. As in, I had never even kissed another girl. I'd like to believe that I'm just that good, but just doesn't seem to fit. She has been nothing but honest with me so I want to believe her it just really doesn't seem to fit in my mind. So my question is just mainly just for the women: Is it realistic that this could be true? The rest of my problem comes just in dealing with experience in general. For this I should probably explain the relationship a bit more. We've actually only been together for about 4 months but we've told each other that we love one another (which we really do) and despite my living in the dorms on an all male floor, she lives with me....stays over everynight, come here after work, we've actually both slipped up and referred to my room (a single, luckily) as home. My problem is that she has a been around and been with other people and such. I haven't. Not just in sexual experience either. She has experience in about everything. This is where the subject comes in. I have very liberal views of just about everything, and when I look through these "liberal glasses" none of this experience bothers me. However, I had a very conservative upbringing, and as a result I feel like certain values seem burned into me. And these values often sharply disagree with me being able to be with this girl. I don't know how to deal with these vastly different perspectives other than hope than give it time. I also think that the fact that I wasn't given any time to experience any of this for myself might play into it. It can sometimes feel like I found the right girl to soon. But at the same time, I NEVER even consider breaking up with her for this because I know I would always regret it, and I just can't really picture me getting along with anyone better than how we get along. I mean, in my entire life, I have never felt this comfortable around anybody and as a naturally shy guy, I have no problems talking to her. Well I'm sure this is just something that I'll have to work through, just the same I need to let talk about this to someone other than my SO and I was hoping for some outside input or comments, maybe even some new way to look at it that I haven't yet.