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Originally Posted by pules
Cervantes - You're such a pussy man!!!!
I hope more guys arn't like you. Grow some balls and tell her to fuck off (even though I know you've already done this)
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That's not even worhty of an answer.
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Originally Posted by pules
What really pisses me off is "I really, really hate doing that but it was the only way I could stop her from going on about how fun she thought it was" - what is this world coming to when we have to worry about hurting womens feelings????
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I hate giving ultimatums because they leave no wriggle room, they are absolute. Sometimes you have to give them but I don't have to like it.
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Originally Posted by pules
Why did you let this happen for such a long time? Take control and be a MAN.
Did you ever think about the fact that women want a MAN in their lives and not just some sensitive guy who has no control over the relationship?
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I fail to see what's manly about being rude to the ones you love and ruining something that you want just because your ego has been bruised, I've been with her for almost a year. We live toghether, share the apartment even and I have every intention of staying with her.
As for control, we share it, some things she's better at deciding and other things I'm better at deciding. That is what has gotten us through this far without creating unnecessary conflicts.
She thought it was a game before she really understood how I reacted to it, it had only partially to do with me not wanting to hurt her feelings and everything to do with me not wanting to jump the gun and ruin something that has taken a year to build up.
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Originally Posted by pules
I'm glad you did what you did, but why did it have to take you such a long time and for a dozen ppl to tell you this?
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Again, I did not want to jump the gun and ruin it, I wanted to be sure of the way to handle it because I had never been in a similar situation before. It took me completly by suprise. At first I thought it was just a phase and figured I'd wait it out, but when it didn't end I had to find a sensible way to stop it.
My initial reaction was to play her back like she played me (which I knew even then had a high probarbility to end in disaster) but I figured I'd ask here first since there are so many ppl here that has such diverse experiences so I knew it woudln't hurt to hear what they had to say about it before I did anything.
If it's something I've learned about engaging situations that is unknown to me it is to listen to those who has some experience of them.
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Originally Posted by pules
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I have no interest in listening to somone that looks like a caricature of a guy from flab 4.
(Mods, I'm not quiet sure as to how far I am allowed to go with this, If it falls under flaming I apologize and ask that you remove the message.)