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Sounds like your girlfriend and I have a little in common. Although I never blow my fiance off to go to the movies with my sister and dad (or for any real reason besides very very important events), I don't appreciate him enough. When I am level-headed, I know I should be because he drives home 4 hours to see me every other weekend.
Maybe your girlfriend has problems expressing her appreciation. Next time you are both having a serious talk (maybe you don't have those), you should just say: "Hey, I just wanted to ask you if you appreciate when I drive home for you." If she gets pissed off, YOU should say you have to go, so she isn't the typical conversation hacker.
When you are angry with your girlfriend, you should calmly tell her so. "Janie, I am really unhappy that you went off with your dad and sister, because I was going to drive back to college." Then back it up with "I was unhappy because you mean a lot to me and I love spending time with you" before she interrupts with angry words.
Although you may get into a lot of arguments and fights, TRY to communicate as best as possible. Communicate your feelings without completely hurting hers- and if she still doesn't get the message, dump her and then she will.
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