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Originally Posted by Redjake
For instance: First-time lovers. A guy has never dated anyone before, and he meets a girl, they date, and get married years later. They die together. I've already discredited "love at first sight," so wouldn't this technically be a random encounter with a person and you just happen to fall in love with them? That illustrates my point the best. You can learn to love anyone. Thoughts?
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That's kind of the equivalent of thinking you are special because streetlights go out sometimes when you pass them. No, you just noticed it because it's a rarity.
The situation you describe above is rare. Sometimes people happen to find a person they can love and live with on the first try, but it's not like just because it happend to them, anybody can find a random person and fall in love with them.
I wouldn't say that you can learn to love
anyone but I would say that there is a subset of individuals in the world with whom I could fall in love, and a smaller subset of individuals in the world that I probably wouldn't stay in love with but could live with, and a much larger subset of people that I probably couldn't stand to be around after 2 months. So depending on my standards, the probability that I will meet a person who falls into the first category makes it unlikely but possible that any random person could be someone I'd fall in love with.
I think you're trying pretty hard to oversimplify the complex parts of "relationship theory" and over-complexify the simple parts.