I agree with you that the "meant for each other" thing, in the sense of finding The One Person who's right for you, is unrealistic and annoying. I think there is a large number of people out there with whom each person could make a life. I don't think it's just "oh my gosh, someone loves me, that must mean I love them back." I think it's a lot more complex than that.
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Originally Posted by Redjake
The reason people get divorces is because they get bored with the person or learn that the only reason they "loved" the person is because they were blinded by the Fact. The Fact they showed interest in you.
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Er...I think that's maybe a little simplistic. Maybe for someone with incredibly low self-esteem to start with, but I think people get divorced for a lot of reasons. Because they stop getting along, because they change in incompatible ways, because they start wanting different things, because they wanted different things in the first place and figured they could deal and were wrong, because they're emotionally immature, because they never really knew each other to start with and don't actually like each other. Or a host of other reasons.
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The reason people stay married is because they are:
a). Too afraid to get a divorce due to social strife.
b). Stay blinded their entire life.
c). If you're married, you can't date around anymore. Imagine if you were married and someone showed interest in you like your spouse does. And you started to date them. I'm sure people would "love" the other person as well. I guess that's why people get a divorce. Because of this same scenario!
Anyone agree or disagree?
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Again, I disagree. I can only speak for myself, but I stay married because I said I would, and because I (stilll) enjoy being around ratbastid more than I enjoy being around anybody else. I am living your example "c" - I was dating someone who showed interest in my like my spouse does. I do love her. I still love her, and I'm not getting divorced. We might renegotiate the details of our marriage to allow for loving and committing to other people, but that doesn't mean that we stop loving each other (me and ratbastid) just because we also start being loved by other people.
Again, I think you have a kind of cynical and overly-simplistic view of how love works.