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Old 01-30-2005, 05:11 PM   #1 (permalink)
Redjake
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A Different View of Love

I don't like it when people say two persons were "meant" for each other. And that "by coincidence" or something they met the one person they were "meant" to be with. There's only one person in the world that you are "meant" to be with and miraculously, every single person that is in love met that significant other by chance. Or maybe there's an outer force bringing us together.


I think it's more like this:

You meet someone that likes you. They actually like you. That makes you like them even more. The fact someone likes who you are (or your body, for some people) makes people excited. They get blinded by other characteristics the person has, good or bad. The thought of someone else liking you is a good thought!

So you begin to like them like I said before. Then you find out other things about them, maybe hobbies or traits, and you train yourself to like those hobbies and traits. You like them so much, share so much experiences together, you being to love them. Love is simply an evolved form of enjoying someone.


For instance, you meet a girl or guy that enjoys being around you. You aren't usually into blondes, but hey, they like you. A month later you all of a sudden love blondes. You find out they don't go to church very often. You don't approve of this, but in a month or two, you don't mind. All of this is a chain reaction. You begin to like every thing about the person based on the fundamental fact of them liking you to begin with. Once you get so engrossed in the person, you begin to evolve your thoughts of them. You begin to REALLY like them, or "love" them. You can't spend your life without them. Expect maybe if you met someone else who liked you.

No one is "meant" for each other or brought together by some force. You find someone you can live with and learn to like their traits you aren't comfortable with.

Little things they do for you all add up and blind you from their traits you don't enjoy.

The reason people get divorces is because they get bored with the person or learn that the only reason they "loved" the person is because they were blinded by the Fact. The Fact they showed interest in you.

The reason people stay married is because they are:

a). Too afraid to get a divorce due to social strife.
b). Stay blinded their entire life.
c). If you're married, you can't date around anymore. Imagine if you were married and someone showed interest in you like your spouse does. And you started to date them. I'm sure people would "love" the other person as well. I guess that's why people get a divorce. Because of this same scenario!

Anyone agree or disagree?
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