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Originally Posted by Holo
Seriously tho I would just talk to her upfront about it. A lot of women don't understand the power of a man's sexuality, and how it impacts their relationships. Many women think that male sexuality is just self-serving pleasure-chasing or worse when it really is a cornerstone to emotional attachement to a person in most men. You play with a man sexually you're playing with emotional fire. Just tell her how this hurts you and make her understand how you're different. Don't make it a Mars-Venus thing, make it personal and tell her it actually hurts you and makes you feel rejected. If she isn't caught in her own bullshit or some issue she hasn't disclosed she should stop her behavior since it's new and shouldn't be too hard to break.
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I totally agree with holo. You're not just starting a relationship or anything, you've been going out a year. By this time you should be upfront and honest with each other. Don't play stupid head games, and especially about sex. Communicate.
One piece of advice i'd like to give though, don't use phrases that "blame" things on her, like "Stop doing _____, you shouldn't do it." Only describe her actions on how they affect you. "When you do _____, I feel like like i'm not being taken seriously, it's like you're playing mind games, and that's hurtful to me."
on the other hand, maybe she doesn't see you as the confident, self-assured man she thought she knew. She would be testing you in the same way, to see how you react. When she teases you during the day, do you change the way you act- stay closer to her, or act needy in some way?