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chickentribs · 01-29-2005, 08:37 AM

If your reason for asking her is because you keep thinking about her, then you should be honest with yourself as to what you are trying to do. How much have you two talked in the last year? Why "coffee"? Are you seeing this as a sort of half-date, or are you truly wanting to reconnect as only friends?

Just be clear what is going on in your head, and be honest with her about it. My ex and I got together as "friends" after not speaking for a year, and before I knew it we were together again. It was not what I wanted or intended, and I just ended up screwing up any chance of a friendship with her because I wasn't clear with myself and it is amazing how quickly you fall right back into the old habits of a relationship. Breaking things off the second time are twice as bad - trust me!

Good luck with it...

EDIT: I should have figured that by the time I sent this I would just be repeating the sage advice of a faster typist... Curses Maleficent and drakers!

01-29-2005, 08:37 AM	#4 (permalink)
chickentribs Addict Location: Mansion by day/Secret Lair by night	If your reason for asking her is because you keep thinking about her, then you should be honest with yourself as to what you are trying to do. How much have you two talked in the last year? Why "coffee"? Are you seeing this as a sort of half-date, or are you truly wanting to reconnect as only friends? Just be clear what is going on in your head, and be honest with her about it. My ex and I got together as "friends" after not speaking for a year, and before I knew it we were together again. It was not what I wanted or intended, and I just ended up screwing up any chance of a friendship with her because I wasn't clear with myself and it is amazing how quickly you fall right back into the old habits of a relationship. Breaking things off the second time are twice as bad - trust me! Good luck with it... EDIT: I should have figured that by the time I sent this I would just be repeating the sage advice of a faster typist... Curses Maleficent and drakers! __________________ Oft expectation fails... and most oft there Where most it promises - Shakespeare, W. Last edited by chickentribs; 01-29-2005 at 08:42 AM..