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monkeysugar · 01-28-2005, 03:56 PM

For every person who tells you they can work, there will be another to tell you they can't. It really just depends on a lot of things, as I'm sure you're well aware of. I've been in two long distance relationships. The first....didn't work out. Sure, I liked her, and she liked me, but I'm certain there wasn't really a whole lot of commitment on either end. Shit happens, life goes on.

The second, however, has been an entirely different story. Long story short, we spend time together almost every single day/night, and talk on the phone all the time. Her family lives in Japan, so for semester and summer vacations (about 3.5-4 months out of the year), she's literally on the other side of the world. I'm not going to try and say it's a lot of fun, but it works, and really makes you appreciate the little things like phone calls.

It is all up to you, basically. If things don't work you can always call them off, and if they do, it can make your relationship a lot stronger. Like I said, it's not always fun but it can be worth it. It also helps if your relationship isn't the only thing you've got going. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself doesn't get anyone anywhere. Go out, have fun with friends, and do stuff you want to go do. For me, those 4 months out of the year are when I get my stockpile of "me time" and go out and do lots of guy stuff with my friends who are in similar situations.

01-28-2005, 03:56 PM	#32 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	For every person who tells you they can work, there will be another to tell you they can't. It really just depends on a lot of things, as I'm sure you're well aware of. I've been in two long distance relationships. The first....didn't work out. Sure, I liked her, and she liked me, but I'm certain there wasn't really a whole lot of commitment on either end. Shit happens, life goes on. The second, however, has been an entirely different story. Long story short, we spend time together almost every single day/night, and talk on the phone all the time. Her family lives in Japan, so for semester and summer vacations (about 3.5-4 months out of the year), she's literally on the other side of the world. I'm not going to try and say it's a lot of fun, but it works, and really makes you appreciate the little things like phone calls. It is all up to you, basically. If things don't work you can always call them off, and if they do, it can make your relationship a lot stronger. Like I said, it's not always fun but it can be worth it. It also helps if your relationship isn't the only thing you've got going. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself doesn't get anyone anywhere. Go out, have fun with friends, and do stuff you want to go do. For me, those 4 months out of the year are when I get my stockpile of "me time" and go out and do lots of guy stuff with my friends who are in similar situations. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.