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I believe (and this is really just an assumption) that most people who are introverts but desire to be extroverts do so because they are afraid that during interpersonal communication they are going to do something which would elicit a negative response. Now I have two things to say about this...
1) It is possible to be both quiet and an extrovert. You don't have to be constantly contributing to every conversation to be a part of it, and you don't have to make noise to hang out or make friends. If you don't have that much to say, that's cool, but you shouldn't be afraid of talking when you want because ... well ... That's part of point 2.
2) It isn't worth changing who you are for others. If YOU want to change, that's all good, but don't worry about being a different person so your roomate's friends will like you or whatever. That being said, some peolpe aren't going to like you, but if they don't, whatever. Fuck 'em. You don't need to be friends with everyone to be happy, and unless the person is a close-minded douchebag, the chances are heavily in your favor that the person is going to be okay with you at the very least.
So that being said, if you want to introduce yourself, just do it. If you want to speak up in a conversation, do it. If someone is going to do something and you want to join them, ask. It really is as simple as just doing it.
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