I used to be very introverted in public, but last year I went to a new school so I realized I would have to learn how to talk! Until this year, I was always known as "the quiet guy", people always used to ask me "Why are you so quiet?", "how come you never talk?". I never get that anymore. I changed myself and am happy for it.
My advice: Be overly confident, (but don't let other people know or you'll seem arrogant and shit
). Just walk in one of those open doors, introduce yourself, and say "What's up?" or some other conversation starter (e.g. ask him a question about a sports game you missed, or a t.v. show). For me, I would still feel quite awkward and nervous doing something like that, but I would still do it anyway. I think that if you want to be happy, you gotta do what you know is best for the future, and not what you would naturally do, like stay introverted. It's not good to be an introvert, and if that's what you are, then you have to change. It may sound a bit harsh but it's true.
Also, try to think of yourself as the 'coolest' person in the world and that everyone wants to be your friend. I used to think that I was inferior to everyone else, but that's not true, I am the superior one
and that will help you bring self-confidence into any social situation.
Here's a section from an email newsletter/report that I found once, and have been subscribed to it for a while:
Quote:
[ABOUT SELF CONFIDENCE]
1. Make a list of your strong points. All the positive
things about yourself and the things that you are good at
doing.
Think of compliments you have received or things that come
easily to you. It doesn’’t matter what it is, if it’’s
good, write it down.
2. Choose two of those things that you want to work on to
improve even more. It’s important to succeed and by
concentrating on the areas you are already good at you will
have a better chance of becoming even more sure of
yourself.
Remember that success builds upon success.
3. Exude confidence even if you don’t feel like it. Talk to
yourself in an encouraging way and stay away from negative
thoughts and people as you can.
Instead surround yourself with positive, confident, and
successful people. This will become a habit and one that
will build confidence.
4. Look at yourself in a different way than you are used to
doing. It can change your life and help your confidence
level to rise.
See yourself as the self confident person you want to be
and before you know it you will become that person.
If you have a set-back do not let it get the best of you.
Remember the times when you exhibited self confidence and
how good it felt and then try again and each time will help
you to build confidence and confidence building will become
a way of life.
Do keep in mind that being self-confident is about feeling
confident. And I have already given you two very powerful,
practical ways to feel super confident whenever you need to
be at your very best.
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I find that it's got some good advice that I use a lot. The guy that writes that also wrote a book about communicating with people better, and it's probably a pretty good book but I've never bought it
I just like the free emails.
Free Confident Communication Report:
http://www.workwealth.com/
That's the site to sign up for it, I would recommend it. It has really helped me in becoming more extroverted.