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chickentribs · 01-22-2005, 11:56 AM

I'm suprised nobody has defined "cheating", because I am sure that there are a number different ideas in everybody's heads that have posted. Intercourse, oral sex, spending a night w/ no sex, making out, developing a relationship on the web, flirting at work, appt at a massage parlour, masterbating thinking of someone else or using a Playboy... Some of you who have said NEVER may have very well already cheated based on another's interpretation.

I guess my point is simply don't judge others with "lowest of the low" or "once a cheater always a cheater" type statements. Anybody who has figured out all the curves life will throw at them - feel free to shush me. But the statistics show that well over 50% do cheat, including parents, friends, and pastors. They can't all be scum. I bet some even have a pretty good reason for their actions.

And to answer the question: I haven't. Not because of my SO, it's just been my decision to not look in the mirror at that guy. Makes me feel morally superior for now. I have been cheated on, twice actually, and neither time did it devastate me like I have read here, because they didn't take anything from me. I was still the same person, it is their own demon to carry in themselves. It's just sex, and their are a lot of other parts to your relationship that are years in the making as opposed to 20 minutes and a bad decision.

Sorry - it got preachy.

01-22-2005, 11:56 AM	#61 (permalink)
chickentribs Addict Location: Mansion by day/Secret Lair by night	I'm suprised nobody has defined "cheating", because I am sure that there are a number different ideas in everybody's heads that have posted. Intercourse, oral sex, spending a night w/ no sex, making out, developing a relationship on the web, flirting at work, appt at a massage parlour, masterbating thinking of someone else or using a Playboy... Some of you who have said NEVER may have very well already cheated based on another's interpretation. I guess my point is simply don't judge others with "lowest of the low" or "once a cheater always a cheater" type statements. Anybody who has figured out all the curves life will throw at them - feel free to shush me. But the statistics show that well over 50% do cheat, including parents, friends, and pastors. They can't all be scum. I bet some even have a pretty good reason for their actions. And to answer the question: I haven't. Not because of my SO, it's just been my decision to not look in the mirror at that guy. Makes me feel morally superior for now. I have been cheated on, twice actually, and neither time did it devastate me like I have read here, because they didn't take anything from me. I was still the same person, it is their own demon to carry in themselves. It's just sex, and their are a lot of other parts to your relationship that are years in the making as opposed to 20 minutes and a bad decision. Sorry - it got preachy. __________________ Oft expectation fails... and most oft there Where most it promises - Shakespeare, W.