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reverendjay · 05-14-2003, 08:09 PM

I've never been able to talk to my ex's right after we break up. My personal view on things is that you can't just shut love off because it's no longer convenient for you. Your choices are a.) Find something to occupy your time that doesn't involve the chick, or b.) let those feelings translate into something else, which typically isn't healthy. Love takes time to fade, but it can turn into hate almost overnight.

The only advice I would give you is this, if you're still talking to her, let her know that while you do want to remain friends, it's tough for you to have daily interaction with her right now. If she's really that good of a friend, she'll back off and give you your space while you get your head straight.

That's when you realize that not knowing anything about her life is a heck of a lot harder to deal with than knowing too much.

05-14-2003, 08:09 PM	#14 (permalink)
reverendjay Insane Location: Baltimore	I've never been able to talk to my ex's right after we break up. My personal view on things is that you can't just shut love off because it's no longer convenient for you. Your choices are a.) Find something to occupy your time that doesn't involve the chick, or b.) let those feelings translate into something else, which typically isn't healthy. Love takes time to fade, but it can turn into hate almost overnight. The only advice I would give you is this, if you're still talking to her, let her know that while you do want to remain friends, it's tough for you to have daily interaction with her right now. If she's really that good of a friend, she'll back off and give you your space while you get your head straight. That's when you realize that not knowing anything about her life is a heck of a lot harder to deal with than knowing too much. __________________ I'm married now, so the only thing in my house that pulls out now is the couch.