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Ha! I thought of something to offer. I can't remember the comedian, but it went something like this:
Have you ever watched National Geographic and seen lions getting it on. He's hopped up on her back humping away. She's turning around panting and starling at him in the "come on baby, do that thing!" attitude. Now, I ask you: Do you think what's going through her mind is "I wonder if he thinks my ass is big?"
My point is that, at the time you decide you want to have sex with someone, you shouldn't be nervous. Your presence on this board and the quality of your contribution implies an open sexual attitude. Furthermore, this could be extrapolated to mean you are most likely "good in bed".
So, when you want to have sex with the next person everything is already in place for you: you know you are good at it and that you are going to have a good time - so free your mind and let yourself have the good time you deserve.
As for a fuck buddy, I have always avoided this. By nature, humans are relationship creatures. Having a fuck buddy means investing some amount of time and energy in a "relationship" with very little chance for a future. That time and energy would be better spent healing and preparing for the next good thing that WILL come along. A fuck buddy would just be a distraction from this process.
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