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I know I got here late, but here's a few suggestions:
Talk to your roommate early and work out your rules. Don't just say, "Here's what I like to do," or anything like that; just say you want to set some rules, and bring up suggestions and negotiate.
Leave your door open as much as possible when you're in the room. There are a lot of people who will stop in and say "Hi", so strike up a conversation.
As a side to that, have something interesting in your room. When I moved in, my dorm was set up very poorly, with furnature almost randomly placed. My roommates and I planned out a new arrangement which left a huge open space in the middle (very impressive-looking since it was a triple converted to a quad). Word got around, so for a couple weeks, we'd have people stop by and ask to see our room.
Don't be shy. When you walk down the hallway, if you see an open door and something interesting going on inside, take a look. Always be polite, knock and ask permission of course, but they'll probably let you go in.
Basically, just make sure you aren't pushed around, or that you aren't doing that to your roommate. Reading some of the roommate horror stories out there, I feel very lucky to have gotten the roommate I did. He was an occasional drinker and pot-smoker, and I wasn't at all. He like to play D&D, while I wasn't interested too much. We both set rules, and respected each other. I'd respect when he wanted to do those things in our room, and either leave for a while or stay and not be involved, and he'd respect me when I didn't want to/couldn't leave the room. Even though I don't go to that school anymore, he's still a friend of mine. I hope you have the same outcome.
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