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Acting Silly In Bed
I am a pretty funny, goofy guy. Unfortunately, this does not seem to translate to the bedroom. I had a sexual partner tell me that she was turned off because I make her feel silly--it's like a childish relationship. She said she felt like a Playboy, and I was seeing boobs for the first time.
So.
First of all, a disclaimer: I'm not going "oooooh, boobies!" I do joke about them, and joke in general, often because I thought it would defuse tension. Apparently it just defuses desire.
This brings me to two questions:
1) What's your take on joking around in bed? How much is too much?
2) What's the appropriate way to act in romantic situations? How do I act romantic? Heck, a step-by-step guide would be good here, though probably not appropriate.
I know this sounds dumb, it was really just a big ego hit that my demeanor in the bedroom is less than sexy. How should you go about it?
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