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maleficent · 01-13-2005, 05:30 AM

When my best friend of more than 30 years was killed on 9/11, his family had a memorial service a short time later, and asked a few of his friends to speak at the service.

Writing that eulogy was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, because it was impossible to put down 30 years of affection, friendship, love, memories into just 10 minutes.

People like my friend came along but once in a lifetime, his death was not something planned for, heck, months after his death, things we had planned to do were still being cancelled. But honestly, I didn't need to tell him how I felt, he knew. He didn't need to tell me how he felt about me, I knew. Actions, in life, speak a lot louder than words, I'd much rather have my friends show me they care, rather than tell me.

I don't think that we need to tell people what they mean to us, because it's just talk, and talk is cheap, it's what we don't say, what we show people, that means a lot more.

01-13-2005, 05:30 AM	#9 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	When my best friend of more than 30 years was killed on 9/11, his family had a memorial service a short time later, and asked a few of his friends to speak at the service. Writing that eulogy was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, because it was impossible to put down 30 years of affection, friendship, love, memories into just 10 minutes. People like my friend came along but once in a lifetime, his death was not something planned for, heck, months after his death, things we had planned to do were still being cancelled. But honestly, I didn't need to tell him how I felt, he knew. He didn't need to tell me how he felt about me, I knew. Actions, in life, speak a lot louder than words, I'd much rather have my friends show me they care, rather than tell me. I don't think that we need to tell people what they mean to us, because it's just talk, and talk is cheap, it's what we don't say, what we show people, that means a lot more. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.