So last November, I'm in college, and there's this girl who's flat-out crazy about me. Call her Dakota, cause that's where she's from, and I like code names. We hang out, I get to like her to, kiss, date, etc. She is still nuts for me. She initiates sex the first time, comes to visit over Christmas (I'm from Ohio, so that's quite a haul), etc etc. She says "I love you" first, says she wants to be together forever, and plans where we're going to live after we get married. And I don't mind this, because I'm getting to really like her too, and I can see us being together forever.
Then we go home for summer. It's three months apart, we come back, things are a little weird, but good. By mid-September, things are still a little weird, and we have a fight. Make up the next day, no biggie, but suddenly she is not interested in sex (or related activities) AT ALL. We've had sex maybe three times since; once was the one-year anniversary in November and the other two were special occassions as well.
Now, she says she feels constrained and that she wishes she could make out with other guys. The beginning, she said, occurred when she met this guy Adam over the summer, and though they only chatted a few times, it made her realize there were other guys out there and it bugged her ever since.
She says she's willing to try to work things out, but I've pretty much written it off. If she's gone almost 4 months totally uninterested in me, a little more time isn't going to change things. And if she's going to spend the rest of the relationship lusting after other guys, neither of us will be happy.
So the question is, to all you knowledgeable folk, what the hell just happened to my relationship? This was a girl that not long ago was naming our future children, and now she has no interest in me whatsoever?
