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chumpster · 01-07-2005, 01:25 PM

This is for everyone that has had, or has dealt with someone who is fighting depression.

I have been with my girlfriend for several years now. She is finishing school and we are talking about moving off to start somewhere else soon. I work 9 hours a day, 5 days a week saving money so that someday we can be married and buy a house. Recently she has decided to do something about her depression. She has had some obvious problems, but I guess I never really thought of them as signs of depression ( yeah yeah, remember that commercial... Signs of Depression... did you check more than one of these symptoms??...). She went and saw her doctor, who put her on Lexapro, a new antidepresant.

I am really frustratred now.. cause I really wish I could help her. She makes plans to do things... like go out and go shopping, or travel to see her relatives on winterbreak... call her friends to hang out..... even when we talk on the phone, she seems miserable. I encourage her to do what she has spoken about, potentially to the point where I may sound naggy, but I doesn't seem to help. Other things are now coming up that are directly starting to affect plans. this last semester is perfectly scheduled so that she can get a job and work part time. We really need the extra income to help this move....

I am trying not to be selfish, but her depression seems to keep her from thinking about me. I have been doing a lot of things to try and help. I've picked up a lot of her slack with chores etc..., I've made a point to try and go out of my way and do nice things.. On top of this work has been very stressful, and my family has been ill.... I've not heard a "how are you doing?", or a "thanks for the help."
Our sex life has turned to once a month maybe. Not that this is really that much of a concern for me, but I have to take care of myself often....

How can I help, what can I do? I don't want to nag her to get things done. She has just started this week taking the Lexapro, and it should start taking effect in the next week or so. I guess that means it will/should get better.... It's just very frustrating. I love her very much, but it's really hard to deal with.

And suggestions?

01-07-2005, 01:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
chumpster Upright	Helping depression This is for everyone that has had, or has dealt with someone who is fighting depression. I have been with my girlfriend for several years now. She is finishing school and we are talking about moving off to start somewhere else soon. I work 9 hours a day, 5 days a week saving money so that someday we can be married and buy a house. Recently she has decided to do something about her depression. She has had some obvious problems, but I guess I never really thought of them as signs of depression ( yeah yeah, remember that commercial... Signs of Depression... did you check more than one of these symptoms??...). She went and saw her doctor, who put her on Lexapro, a new antidepresant. I am really frustratred now.. cause I really wish I could help her. She makes plans to do things... like go out and go shopping, or travel to see her relatives on winterbreak... call her friends to hang out..... even when we talk on the phone, she seems miserable. I encourage her to do what she has spoken about, potentially to the point where I may sound naggy, but I doesn't seem to help. Other things are now coming up that are directly starting to affect plans. this last semester is perfectly scheduled so that she can get a job and work part time. We really need the extra income to help this move.... I am trying not to be selfish, but her depression seems to keep her from thinking about me. I have been doing a lot of things to try and help. I've picked up a lot of her slack with chores etc..., I've made a point to try and go out of my way and do nice things.. On top of this work has been very stressful, and my family has been ill.... I've not heard a "how are you doing?", or a "thanks for the help." Our sex life has turned to once a month maybe. Not that this is really that much of a concern for me, but I have to take care of myself often.... How can I help, what can I do? I don't want to nag her to get things done. She has just started this week taking the Lexapro, and it should start taking effect in the next week or so. I guess that means it will/should get better.... It's just very frustrating. I love her very much, but it's really hard to deal with. And suggestions?