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Originally Posted by NosVette
Does no one here belive in punishment? Am I the only one who belives that retribution is a duty, and that forgiveness is a well guarded gift? If you saw someone being mugged would you all just walk by and think "It's not my problem. Maybe I'll comfort him after he gets robbed, but it's not my place to interfere"? I refuse to belive that. It is easy to sound like you know what to do, and to say what you would want to do under ideal situations, but I think that if you were in my shoes you would do everythign in your power to make sure that he knows exactly what happens when he crosses the line.
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if i walked by and saw someone being mugged, i would intervene. but that isn't the situation you described. a more accurate comparison would be walking down the street and coming across someone who'd just been mugged. and in that case, i would not go running after the attacker--i would ensure the safety and comfort of the victim and assist and encourage them to get some help (police, medical, whatever the situation called for). which is the same advice most of us are offering to you.
your situation is not all that unique, sexual assualt is not a rare phenomenon. i'm sure many of us have encountered similiar situations in our own lives. there are laws in place to deal with things like this, which is exactly why you shouldn't.
i understand being angry with him. i understand feeling protective of her. and i wouldn't be a bit shocked if you felt a little bit responsible since it was your house and you invited him to be there (though it is in no way your fault anymore than it is hers). but in all honesty, what will beating the shit out of him accomplish? it won't change what happened, it won't make her feel empowered and safe, and it could land you in jail.
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you feel better, what benefit would this have on the situation? do you really think it will prevent him from doing the same again? i don't. people who think it's acceptable to force themselves on someone else sexually are not the kind of people who learn from prison sentences--much less someone roughing them up a bit.