Sounds like I'm TOK's kind of woman...except for the beating the other girlfriend thing, I'm kind of a pacifist
I don't think your definition of "traditional" is very traditional anymore. A traditional woman these days has a job, pays her own bills, owns her own house, and doesn't need to be with a man to take care of her. She can cook, but may not have time for it, she can sew, but doesn't need to make her own clothes, she dresses conservatively at the office but lets her hair down when she's out, and she may let out a curse every now and then.
I don't think that you are a jerk; everyone is entitled to their opinion, but it probably will be hard for you to find a girl like this. All of the women I know definitely don't fit this description.