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if your parents are middle-class, then they prolly have their own debt--why should they go into debt (perhaps further) to buy you a car (or anything else)? most middle-class americans are in debt, regardless of age. i certainly wouldn't expect my parents to go into debt (further) in order to buy something for me. if i need/want it, i'll get it myself. if that means going in debt then i'll have to want it pretty bad or live without.
that said, there's nothing wrong with living with your parents as far as i'm concerned. i live with mine and i'm very happy with that arrangement (as are they). i don't really care if others consider it odd or think i'm lazy and not an adult for it. i don't live at home for financial reasons (though saving money on rent is a really nice perk!) so it isn't like i couldn't move out if i chose to do so or my parents asked me.
i don't think the issue is so much living with your parents as it is expecting them to support you. i don't expect anything from my parents. if they wanted rent, i'd gladly pay it or move out. as it is, they don't want rent because they'd much rather have the help around the house that they would otherwise have to pay for (which would total more than i'd pay in rent anyway).
they didn't buy me a car and they don't pay my bills. they aren't financially obligated to me in any way. if they wanted to buy me something, i'd take it as the gift it would be but i certainly don't expect anything.
but living with parents can be tricky depending on the people. it is working great for me and mine, but i've had friends who couldn't manage it. and i know my sister and my parents couldn't reach the same understanding that my parents and i share. they help her out financially a lot more than they do me, but it's easier for them (and her) to help pay her bills than to have her move in. so even though i live at home while she's on her own, i'd say i'm doing better on the self-supporting end of things.
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