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Read Rylss post above.
Realize also, as you get older, she and you both will have varying amounts of interest in sex during periods that may last several years. It has occured to us when the kids were young and when one of us started a new job or returned to school, it has even been caused by changes in extended family and once by the death of a friend. Basically any change in routine can trigger these changes.
Try to talk openly about it with her and understand if you once had it, it will likely return if you are patient. Under no circumstances place blame or lay guilt.
Try a romantic evening once a week, regardless of your situation. Nothing expensive, but quiet and personal. No pressure for sex, let her make the advances. Just quality time. Talk openly.
Once in bed try some toys, soft things - feathers, scarves, even a small, silicone dildo - and both of you work on her. Let her show you what she likes.
But remember - no pressure. Show your love, you'll get the "sex thing" back.
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