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Originally posted by Greg700
I think that having a friend for a lover is very important, but there also has to be passion. That was what we lacked, and it killed our relationship.
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i agree with this statement for the most part... but i'd like to add an additional thought...
in EVERY relationship... passion levels have their highs and lows. yes, the initial "chemistry" needs to be present
(my personal opinion)... but keep in mind that the mind blowing, all consuming, heart fluttering, spine-tingling flames of passion will sooner or later always burn down to a nice warm "ember" now and again.
real life... children... family... day-to-day stresses... sickness... and plain old relationship ups and downs will effect your passion level. and even the MOST ATTRACTIVE person ages... has good and bad days... might gain weight, lose weight... you never know.
I guess my not so obvious point here it this...
If there is chemistry... and you truly care for and enjoy being with the person... if the person feeds your heart and soul... looks are something that in the long run... end up meaning less than most of us think.
food for thought... *soft smile*