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first off.. you dont have to blame yourself too much. Ultimately whatever you did, or didn't do.. does not make you responsible for other's actions. I don't care if you ran her mother over with a riding mower.. anyone who blames their actions based on another person's actions is full of shit.
Secondly.. it DOES happen sometimes. People are wonky that way.. Pressures build up, lust takes over.. judgement gets clouded.. What to you seems like a perfect relationship could have been like a prison sentence to her. Sometimes people just need a way out. They're not consciouly sure why.. but they know they need to get out now.. and the quickest way to get out of a relationship is cheating. It lets you (the cheater) be the victem, and is a lot eaier than being broken hearted for the rest of your life. I've cheated before.. and while i'm not proud of it.. I would be a liar if i said it was totally out of the realm of things that could happen again. Life is weird sometimes.. the best thing you could do is let it go and move on.. don't blame yourself.. or you will totally fuck up the next relationship trying to overcompensate.
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