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This is something I have never totally understood. Myself, I have never cheated or for that matter, never had the desire to. However, the women I have been with seem to think otherwise. Don't worry, I am not going to turn this into a bitchfest, I am just curious to see if anyone knows what possesses people to do this.

As far back as I can remember, pretty much every relationship I have been in, consisted the girl cheating on me at some point. Why did they it...I have no idea. At first, I thought it was me. Maybe I wasn't giving them something they needed? Maybe I wasn't enough for them. But I never lacked money, I don't drink a lot or do any drugs. I was always faithful and did everything I could to make them feel like they were the most important person on the planet when they were with me. I did everything that is considered right. However, for some reason, it wasn't enough.

I just found out 2 days ago that my girlfriend of a year has been with another guy and has fallen in love with him. Everything seemed perfect with us though. Seriously, it really did. Both of us said that we have never gotten along with another person so perfectly. There was never a fight, there was never any negativity. We seemed to have the best times all the time. This isn't the first time this happened. My last girlfriend of 4 years did the same thing to me and so did the one before that. There were never any problems that I was aware of there either. Infact, when I asked both of them why they did it, they simply said, "I don't know". I asked if somehow I neglected something, but they said no. They just did it...It just happened. One of those things.

I asked a few of my female friends about this. They didn't have an answer either. They just said that it was one of those things that happens. I know other people that never had this happen to them to the degree it has happened to me. Could it be possible, that if the situation is too good, that someone would want to purposely ruin it? It's beyond my reasoning to think why it would be though. Personally, I don't like stressful and upsetting situations. I am baffled!

So, here I am, once again...wondering why. Where did it go wrong. Could it have been prevented? Or is it just human nature and no matter who I end up with, I must always worry about the next one cheating on me.

I am curious to see if anyone has any theories on the reason why people cheat when there is no reason to.