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This question has always plagued me. Even though I'm REALLY into music, I never thought music should be a deciding factor in a relationship. Then I got married to someone with a very limited taste in music. It did become a source of tension in our relationship. I could never really listen to what I wanted to listen to without pissing her off, and that pissed me off. Out of my 100 or 200 CDs I had at the time, she liked about 6 of them. And they weren't anywhere close to my favorites. Just staples you needed to have in your collection. So, she found the "endless repeat" button on the CD player. Oh my GOD! I still connot stand to hear anything more than once. Four hours of Fleetwood Mac's Rumors is enough to make anyone grab an ax and just start hacking away at whatever's in front of you.
Now that I'm single and looking again I'm not really sure what I'll look for as far as musical taste. I have meet very intelligent, very fun people to be around that don't share my taste in music, so I suppose it shouldn't be THE deciding factor. If you want her to listen to your music, you should listen to hers as well. Openess from both partners are required when you're really passionate about something (like music).
Off course, there is some music that just don't have a large female audience, so you can't expect your tasted to match up on everything. If I find a girl that likes King Crimson, I think I'll fall over.
My last gf was a bit younger than me, so she had a completely different taste in music than me. I took her to see both Bowie and Prince last year. She had no idea who Bowie was (she refered to him as the guy with the fucked up eye) and was only slightly aware of Prince (right before the concert started she said, "I think I'm gonna have fun, and I don't even like Prince"). She had a blast at both shows. She didn't like it when I played jazz, but oddly didn't mind show tunes. She was probably the easiest to get along with, as far as music went.
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-Frank Sinatra
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