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Stompy · 12-21-2004, 08:15 AM

It's not being shallow...

Gauging someone's personality, likes, dislikes, etc off of taste in music is a bit different than saying, "Ugh, she can't hold intelligent conversation because of that god awful mole on her face."

Read my post above. If you don't believe me, go out and try it for yourself... meet a girl who's deeply interested in all these hideous mass marketed bands (most of which are on MTV) and just see how far that relationship gets you.

I CHALLENGE you to try it. Yeah, it SOUNDS shallow, but it's not. Ask them to name 15 bands/groups they like. If the majority of those are the crappy mass marketed acts, chances are VERY HIGH that the person isn't very open minded about the world around em.

Now, if it was something like 15 indie bands I've never heard of... that's another story. I won't turn down a person because of that. If they loved, say, Britney Spears but also liked Nine Inch Nails or Mike Patton, I wouldn't turn them down.

If you read my post above, I gave a good example on how music, movies, and other interests easily allow you to gauge a person and understand (at a glance) how their immediate personality is - that's all. No, it doesn't gauge whether or not they're good in bed, good at talking, or good at dealing with problems in a relationship. However, that is only if music is REALLY something you're into.

If you really don't care to begin with, then no, it's not a good way to gauge someone's personality and character.

But honestly now, tons of people can easily communicate and get along with each other. Who wants a boring relationship where one person has NOTHING in common with the other? If you like movies and music, then you're gonna want a person who also likes movies and music. I'm into computers and video games, and hate sports, so do you really think I'd try to get someone who dislikes video games and absolutely LOVES sports? Hell no.

That's not being shallow, that's saying, "Hey, I want someone that I can connect with."

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Of course... it depends on how you are. Everyone is different. Personally, I enjoy intelligent conversation, thus, it's important to me that the person I'm with is able to do that. Past experiences I've had with people who've had bad taste (according to me) in music/movies hasn't shown that they are capable of doing that at all.

I can even see this with friends. There are one or two who have horrid tastes in movies/music that CAN hold intelligent conversation. The others... they are very fun to be around, but I could never see being in a serious lasting relationship with someone like that. I'm not saying they aren't fun or aren't good people, just not relationship-type material *to me*.

12-21-2004, 08:15 AM	#33 (permalink)
Stompy Banned from being Banned Location: Donkey	It's not being shallow... Gauging someone's personality, likes, dislikes, etc off of taste in music is a bit different than saying, "Ugh, she can't hold intelligent conversation because of that god awful mole on her face." Read my post above. If you don't believe me, go out and try it for yourself... meet a girl who's deeply interested in all these hideous mass marketed bands (most of which are on MTV) and just see how far that relationship gets you. I CHALLENGE you to try it. Yeah, it SOUNDS shallow, but it's not. Ask them to name 15 bands/groups they like. If the majority of those are the crappy mass marketed acts, chances are VERY HIGH that the person isn't very open minded about the world around em. Now, if it was something like 15 indie bands I've never heard of... that's another story. I won't turn down a person because of that. If they loved, say, Britney Spears but also liked Nine Inch Nails or Mike Patton, I wouldn't turn them down. If you read my post above, I gave a good example on how music, movies, and other interests easily allow you to gauge a person and understand (at a glance) how their immediate personality is - that's all. No, it doesn't gauge whether or not they're good in bed, good at talking, or good at dealing with problems in a relationship. However, that is only if music is REALLY something you're into. If you really don't care to begin with, then no, it's not a good way to gauge someone's personality and character. But honestly now, tons of people can easily communicate and get along with each other. Who wants a boring relationship where one person has NOTHING in common with the other? If you like movies and music, then you're gonna want a person who also likes movies and music. I'm into computers and video games, and hate sports, so do you really think I'd try to get someone who dislikes video games and absolutely LOVES sports? Hell no. That's not being shallow, that's saying, "Hey, I want someone that I can connect with." [edit] Of course... it depends on how you are. Everyone is different. Personally, I enjoy intelligent conversation, thus, it's important to me that the person I'm with is able to do that. Past experiences I've had with people who've had bad taste (according to me) in music/movies hasn't shown that they are capable of doing that at all. I can even see this with friends. There are one or two who have horrid tastes in movies/music that CAN hold intelligent conversation. The others... they are very fun to be around, but I could never see being in a serious lasting relationship with someone like that. I'm not saying they aren't fun or aren't good people, just not relationship-type material to me. __________________ I love lamp. Last edited by Stompy; 12-21-2004 at 08:30 AM..