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Mr. SelfDestruct is 100% correct. They wil continue to treat you in this manner as long as your actions indicate to them that this is acceptable. By allowing this to occur without protest, you are telling them that it is okay--whether you intend to or not.
It's odd, but I've learned through my line of work that some people will not give you due respect until you show to them that you will not tolerate anyone shitting on you. You have to stand up for yourself and tactfully, but forcefully, indicate that they have to behave themselves if they are going to continue to communicate with you. By sitting back and brushing it off you make yourself the easy target. Sometimes, when tact just doesn't get the point across you have to go one step further by taking the muck that they throw and you and instantly hurl it right back at them. It's shocking how many times a tongue-lashing issued in response to a verbal jab is received with wide-eyed laughter--because they can't believe that the person finally stood up for themselves.
You should be less concerned with what these people are doing and more with the fact that you have been allowing it. College will bring more of the same if you continue to respond in the same manner. At some point you have to tell yourself that it is not their fault for saying these things, it is your fault for allowing it. If you do not, it will continue to eat you up inside and sour all your social interations. You will become that bitter guy that everyone rolls their eyes at...don't become that guy.
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Locusts and honey ... not since John The Baptist has there been a voice like that crying in the wilderness. ... Every man knows he is a sissy compared to Johnny Cash -- Bono.
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