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Since when does doing something once make you anything? There is always so one that feels that they have to throw a label on everyone else, especially when they are compensating for their deficiencies and insecurities. As much as a drag off a joint does not make you a drug addict, sucking a cock doesn’t make you gay. The term revolves around sexual and emotional preference. It’s a life style choice. The short sighted view somehow how is never heard the other way; he’s not gay he fucked a woman once. Ever heard “man is curious by nature” and we all are curious about different things. Some are more socially acceptable than others, but that is a personal choice. Every thing you do has something to do with who you are. Those who point to a single event of personal significance in a lifetime that has no or little effect on society as a whole is wrong to condemn a person for straying from their personal beliefs. The bottom line is what do you want and does it affect those around me? Does a wife or girlfriend have an opinion? That’s your question.
Your answer lies in yourself and those closest to you that may know of your choice. Whatever you do be true to yourself, it’s all that matters. “Yourself” usually doesn’t mean just you either it involves those close to you. Your choice will tell you a lot about yourself but it won’t define what you are. It’s a sexual act not a life defining moment unless you make it that. My wife and I had a few threesome with my best friend and another with her best friend, it didn’t change who we were. We have kids and to everyone we are the typical family except to those we shared those moments with. Neither I or my wife is gay, we just tried something different and fulfilled a fantasy.
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