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littlebighead · 12-13-2004, 03:35 AM

I was going to make some points here, but looks like they've already been made. Blame it on media, stereotypes, imperialism, exoticism, cultural rebellion, etc. What is unfortunate is that, though I noticed this trend in the 90s when I was in college, it's still prevalent. I don't have anything against interracial relationships / miscegenation, but I find the reasons for it are... sad and pathetic. I've asked some of my Asian female friends why they liked dating white men. Some gave lame excuses, like they just haven't found any Asian men that they would find attractive, or that Asian men tend to be chauvanistic (which I find hard to believe among US-born Asian men). And I had a white male roommate who would only date Asian women. When asked why, he admitted it was exoticism. Lame.

I don't know why more Asian men don't date outside their ethnicity. I was always open to it, but my friends weren't. I'm sure it's a cultural thing, like wanting to please one's parents or something. But I would rarely see the Asian-male/white-female coupling, and never the Asian-male/black-female nor Asian-male/latina-female combination.

When I was back in college, I remember complaining with my Asian freinds about the white-male/Asian-female thing. I remember it feeling disempowering, like "they were taking our women". Of course, that was a terribly sexist thing to think, but I was stupid then. One of my more thuggish friends actually assaulted a white-man for dating an Asian woman. Can you say hate crime? Lots of rage from feeling emasculated, I think.

But now that I'm happily married (to a wonderful woman who happens to be Asian) I don't even think about these things anymore. At least, not until my daughters become teenagers.

About the height thing, I think people in Asian countries are growing taller. They're not as malnourished as they used to be. I grew up in Canada and the US, and I'm an average height of 5'10". I remember visiting Taiwan in the late eighties and towering over everyone else. But when I visited in the late nineties, I noticed a lot more people as tall or taller than me. And look at Yao Ming! What is he, 7'5"?

12-13-2004, 03:35 AM	#94 (permalink)
littlebighead Upright Location: Berkeley, CA	I was going to make some points here, but looks like they've already been made. Blame it on media, stereotypes, imperialism, exoticism, cultural rebellion, etc. What is unfortunate is that, though I noticed this trend in the 90s when I was in college, it's still prevalent. I don't have anything against interracial relationships / miscegenation, but I find the reasons for it are... sad and pathetic. I've asked some of my Asian female friends why they liked dating white men. Some gave lame excuses, like they just haven't found any Asian men that they would find attractive, or that Asian men tend to be chauvanistic (which I find hard to believe among US-born Asian men). And I had a white male roommate who would only date Asian women. When asked why, he admitted it was exoticism. Lame. I don't know why more Asian men don't date outside their ethnicity. I was always open to it, but my friends weren't. I'm sure it's a cultural thing, like wanting to please one's parents or something. But I would rarely see the Asian-male/white-female coupling, and never the Asian-male/black-female nor Asian-male/latina-female combination. When I was back in college, I remember complaining with my Asian freinds about the white-male/Asian-female thing. I remember it feeling disempowering, like "they were taking our women". Of course, that was a terribly sexist thing to think, but I was stupid then. One of my more thuggish friends actually assaulted a white-man for dating an Asian woman. Can you say hate crime? Lots of rage from feeling emasculated, I think. But now that I'm happily married (to a wonderful woman who happens to be Asian) I don't even think about these things anymore. At least, not until my daughters become teenagers. About the height thing, I think people in Asian countries are growing taller. They're not as malnourished as they used to be. I grew up in Canada and the US, and I'm an average height of 5'10". I remember visiting Taiwan in the late eighties and towering over everyone else. But when I visited in the late nineties, I noticed a lot more people as tall or taller than me. And look at Yao Ming! What is he, 7'5"?