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Date the Banana · 12-12-2004, 09:25 PM

A few quick comments, (last three girlfriends Asian, as is current belle)
Where I come from (middle of the Can. Prairies) the majority of the Asian community primarily dates Asians. Considering that they represent such a small percentage of the population, (I'd imagine it's less than 10%) I would have expected that interracial couples would be the norm. The odds of finding a good match with the limited number of Asians in the area should have been difficult, what with an overwhelming number of white folk around. And yet, in this circumstance (Middle of Nowhere, Canada) at least, most Asians stick to their own. Why? Who knows. Yes, there are a lot of Asian girl/Western boy relationships, but there are a heck of a lot more Asian boy/Asian girl relationships. The lack of Asian boy/western girl relationships might have as much to do with the Asian mother situation as anything else. A lot of the Asian guys I've spoken to have said their mother would never permit them to marry a white girl. Is that the rule? No, there are exceptions. However, for whatever reasons Asian families often have less of a problem with their daughters dating interracially.
What do you guys say? If you're an Asian guy has your mother/father/grandmother etc said anything or made you aware of a bias about marrying an Asian girl? Girls? Same question in reverse. I'd be interested to see the results.

EDIT: Hmm...while I was typing that there were some good reasoned replies. Yes, I should be reprimanded for lumping Asians in as a group, the differences between the different cultures of the region are very pronounced.
As for the Japanese comment above, that is mostly true, and yet my girlfriend has no desire to leave Japan, or even learn English, so if she's dating me to get away from Japanese life she's being very sly about it...

12-12-2004, 09:25 PM	#89 (permalink)
Date the Banana Insane Location: Japan	A few quick comments, (last three girlfriends Asian, as is current belle) Where I come from (middle of the Can. Prairies) the majority of the Asian community primarily dates Asians. Considering that they represent such a small percentage of the population, (I'd imagine it's less than 10%) I would have expected that interracial couples would be the norm. The odds of finding a good match with the limited number of Asians in the area should have been difficult, what with an overwhelming number of white folk around. And yet, in this circumstance (Middle of Nowhere, Canada) at least, most Asians stick to their own. Why? Who knows. Yes, there are a lot of Asian girl/Western boy relationships, but there are a heck of a lot more Asian boy/Asian girl relationships. The lack of Asian boy/western girl relationships might have as much to do with the Asian mother situation as anything else. A lot of the Asian guys I've spoken to have said their mother would never permit them to marry a white girl. Is that the rule? No, there are exceptions. However, for whatever reasons Asian families often have less of a problem with their daughters dating interracially. What do you guys say? If you're an Asian guy has your mother/father/grandmother etc said anything or made you aware of a bias about marrying an Asian girl? Girls? Same question in reverse. I'd be interested to see the results. EDIT: Hmm...while I was typing that there were some good reasoned replies. Yes, I should be reprimanded for lumping Asians in as a group, the differences between the different cultures of the region are very pronounced. As for the Japanese comment above, that is mostly true, and yet my girlfriend has no desire to leave Japan, or even learn English, so if she's dating me to get away from Japanese life she's being very sly about it... __________________ all work and no play make Date something something Last edited by Date the Banana; 12-12-2004 at 09:30 PM..