Agreed. We really are talking about a multitude of issues, some which converge, some which stand alone.
I do understand what you are saying but I disagree that I framed it all about sex. I must of not made myself very clear then. I had thought I used a variety of examples to illustrate the various aspects of the points offered.
Additionally, keep in mind that I was also including other ethnicities as well. Actually, my main point is the whole notion of ethnicity and race as a whole but that's for another time.
Also, I want to make it clear that I am not "sandbagging" the media either (lol). It's just one part to a multi-part mechanism covering the social strata in which we are dealing with. Remember, stereotypes transend race as well.
Think the classic trailer park wife beater - does that mean all Euro descent males are like that? Of course not. Likewise, not all Asian males (I'm assuming) are traditionally minded or sexist what have you. Nor do macho moustached Latino males all beat their wives either. So on and so forth.
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Again, I must reiterate what I've said before, which is that culture does vary significantly between different parts of Asia, so to discuss this issue you'd need to look at the home country of those involved, where the interactions are taking place (Oregon is much different than Alabama, and definitely much different than Manilla, Cebu City, or Tokyo).
Excellent point - I agree, that is why it is critical we don't make the same prejudgments and continue sandbagging.
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I think that alienation and a desire for independence are key factors for many Asian women when considering to stay within their culture. Whether or not being faced with traditionalists, there is going to be an expectation that being approached by someone only because they're of the same ethnicity as you are that they're looking for some sense of familiarity and to continue within social norms of that culture. After being removed from that culture in some way and then finding that there are aspects of that culture that you don't want to be part of, being approached because of your ethnicity is going to be unappealing. Just like it is unappealing to be approaching by someone of another ethnicity just because you're exotic...
There is an excellent article regarding this very issue from the BBC. I can't locate it right now but: it basically says, that in Japan, many women are looking abroad for the very reason you stated above.
The only problem I have is that Asian men and Asian American men are different. Just like Asian American women and Asian women are different (I am using generalizations here). So it's easy to start "throwing the baby out with the bathwater" as it were.
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